There are countless articles about choosing your venue, finding the perfect dress, and creating a wedding budget.
But no one really talks about wedding week.
Not the version on Instagram where everyone is calm, glowing, and sipping champagne in matching pajamas.
The real wedding week. The week when Amazon packages are arriving daily. When your phone suddenly has 37 unread text messages. When you're wondering if Aunt Susan remembered to RSVP. And when you're asking yourself for the fifth time: "Did we remember the marriage license?"
After years of weddings, I can tell you this: wedding week has a personality all its own.
And if you've found yourself feeling excited, emotional, overwhelmed, and oddly concerned about charger plates all at the same time, congratulations , you're doing it right.
You're Going to Feel All the Feelings
One moment you'll be dancing around your kitchen because you're getting married in five days.
The next, you'll be crying because your favorite coffee shop was out of oat milk.
Wedding week is emotional. You're closing one chapter and beginning another. You're seeing family members arrive from out of town. You're remembering loved ones who can't be there. You're realizing that after months (or years) of planning, this is finally happening.
Give yourself permission to feel all of it. Joy and nervousness can exist at the same time. Excitement and exhaustion can exist at the same time. You don't have to choose.
People Will Suddenly Need Things From You
This is perhaps my favorite phenomenon.
For months, people have been relatively quiet. Then, seemingly overnight, everyone remembers you exist.
"What's the dress code?" "What time should we arrive?" "Can I bring my boyfriend?" "Do you know where I can park?" "Can you add one more person?"
No. No, I cannot.
This is why I tell my couples to designate a point person during wedding week. Whether it's your planner, maid of honor, best friend, or a particularly organized cousin, let someone else answer the questions.
You have enough on your plate.
Things Will Go Wrong (And That's Okay)
I don't say this to scare you. I say it to free you.
Someone will forget something. Someone will run late. A boutonniere may decide it no longer wishes to participate. The weather may become…creative.
And yet, somehow, weddings have an incredible way of working out.
One of my favorite wedding memories involved relocating an entire wedding in just a few hours because of an unexpected storm. Was it stressful? Absolutely. Did the couple still get married surrounded by the people they loved? Also yes.
Perfection is not the goal. Marriage is.
You Will Forget to Eat
I am begging you: please eat. Not just on your wedding day : during wedding week.
Keep snacks nearby. Drink water. Sleep whenever possible. Accept help when it's offered.
Your wedding deserves the best version of you, and the best version of you is not running solely on caffeine and adrenaline.
(Though as someone whose life motto is "No coffee, no wedding," I fully support a celebratory latte.)
Your Partner Is Probably Feeling It Too
Wedding planning has a funny way of turning couples into project managers.
Wedding week is a good time to remember why you're doing this in the first place.
Take a walk. Order takeout. Watch your favorite show. Spend one evening talking about literally anything other than table numbers and timelines.
The wedding is important. The marriage is more important.
From Nathalie's Notebook
There is always a moment during wedding week when a couple apologizes to me.
"I'm sorry if I'm being difficult." "I'm sorry if I seem stressed." "I'm sorry if I've asked the same question three times."
And every single time, my answer is the same: "You're getting married. You're allowed."
Wedding week is not the time to expect perfection from yourself. It's the time to extend yourself grace.
Years from now, you won't remember whether your welcome bags were assembled on Tuesday or Wednesday. You won't remember if your seating chart was printed at 9 a.m. or 2 p.m.
You'll remember how it felt to hug your parents before walking down the aisle. You'll remember your partner's face when they saw you for the first time. You'll remember standing in a room full of people who showed up simply because they love you.
Everything else? Those are just details.
A Few Things to Do During Wedding Week
Confirm your marriage license is in a safe place. Pack an overnight bag. Break in your shoes. Drink more water than you think you need. Put someone else in charge of your phone. Eat breakfast every day. Schedule at least one hour to do absolutely nothing. Hug your people. Take a deep breath. Remember: you're already enough.
Final Thoughts
If no one has told you this lately, let me be the one: you do not have to earn your wedding day by being perfectly organized, perfectly calm, or perfectly put together.
You simply have to show up. Everything else can be figured out.
So as wedding week approaches, give yourself permission to laugh a little more, worry a little less, and trust the team you've built around you.
And if all else fails? Have a cup of coffee. After all, no coffee, no wedding.
With love,
Nathalie
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